Feeling 22 (OoooOoo)

22 things I’ve learned at the ripe old age of 22 !! Here goes:

  • Be kind to everyone. I say it a lot but I cannot emphasise it enough. We never truly know what someone else is going through – whether that be in their external life, or the battles they’re facing internally. So, ALWAYS, be kind.

  • Be kind to yourself. You can’t help other people unless you know how to help yourself. As the saying goes, you can’t pour from an empty cup. Your longest relationship is with yourself so make your mind a nice place to be.

  • Do not judge, anyone. If you’re judging someone it’s because you don’t know enough about them to understand what they’re going through. And, if you don’t know them well enough to know their circumstance or situation then you have no right to judge.

  • Smile.

  • Never take yourself too seriously. In the depths of my illness, I have the complete inability to to feel any emotion, I’m like a robot. I forget how fun life actually is AND, more importantly, I enjoy laughing (especially at myself). Take every moment as it comes, there is power in looking silly and not caring when you do.

  • Having a dirty sense of humour makes everything a little brighter.

  • Family are everything. Treasure them. Make memories with them. Adore them. Talk to them. Spend time with them. No one understands you better than them and they will love you unconditionally. Thank you for making me laugh. Thank you for laughing @ me. Thank you for giving me hope when I had none.

  • Your friends choose to support you. They choose to stand by you, through thick and thin. Your friends choose whether they walk away or not. Your friends don’t love you unconditionally but they CHOOSE to do so. Hold your friends so close.

  • Work on understanding yourself. Stay in tune with YOU. Understanding yourself (the good and the bad) is a challenge but it is worthwhile. When it comes to understanding yourself, no one can do it better than you.

  • Never see yourself as too old or too knowledgable to learn. Learning is essential. Knowledge is power. You are always learning. You can always learn. From others. From yourself. From your mistakes. From books. From your friends. From your parents. Learning is essential.

  • Laugh. Laughter IS the best medicine – the truth.

  • Be honest and have integrity.

  • Be open. Opening up is scary and difficult and terrifying and sh*t and EXHAUSTING, and so so SO worthwhile. Opening up to people shows an element of trust. It reminds you that you are not alone and, most importantly, it highlights that deep down a small part of you believes in you.

  • Quality over quantity. I would much rather have one consistent, loyal and inspiring friend than 36.

  • Mum’s always know best. They just do.

  • Not everyone will like you (and that is okay). The only opinion of yourself that matters is your own. If you learn to accept yourself, you’ll find yourself caring less about the list of people who neglect to understand you. Life is all about expressing yourself, so don’t let the idea that someone could not agree with what you say hold you back from speaking your mind.

  • Change is scary.

  • Change is okay.

  • Nothing lasts forever. These feelings won’t last forever. We don’t need to be intimidated by our feelings. Sure, sometimes, they are hard to feel. Because who wants to be uncomfortable? But when we acknowledge that our feelings rise and fall in fierceness, we can start to feel them.

  • Don’t google your symptoms.

  • Iceberg lettuce. Crunchy iceberg lettuce. It is just so satisfying.

  • Have hope. Hope isn’t strong. It never has been. It bleeds. It breaks. It fumbles. It flounders. It droops. It drops. But hope, it doesn’t die. And knowing that is powerful enough to overthrow kingdoms. Where there is a heart that beats, there is hope… I am, I am, I am.

Love E x

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